Why do you need to become self-aware?
When I wasn’t self-aware, I was operating on automatic thinking mode. I had learned patterns of thinking and behaviour which different experiences in my life had reinforced as well as learned standards for living I had inherited from my family, ancestors, religion, society and culture.
When everything in my life was going well, I was calm and seemed in control of my life. But when the pressure and stress started, I was unable to control my animal instincts to fight or flee.
The end result was a melting pot of thoughts covered in guilt, shame, blame and anger fueled reactive behaviour. Leading to a lack of responsibility for my life with little joy, a lot of emptiness and disconnection.
Self-awareness enabled me to process why I think and act the way I do. This highlighted things I wanted to change about myself.
In the process of learning to be more self-aware, highlighting what I was doing I also started opening doors to why I think and feel the way I do.
It enabled me to explore my beliefs, assumptions I made about people and situations, my values, my standards for living and my history (previous life experiences) and the influence I was unconsciously letting them have on my daily life decisions and the way I thought and behaved. Wow! Now that’s enlightening!
It was like being the celebrity in ‘Who do you think you are?’ except it was exploring my mind not my ancestry. Although I must say digging into my family’s history did help me with my own self-awareness.
Life can be about surviving if you let it. But is surviving enough. I say no! Life to me is about thriving. So if I’m only surviving I want to work out why and work towards thriving. I want to live the life I was born to live.
When it comes to the crunch, you need to ask yourself, “Do I want to keep living my life the way I am?” If the answer is NO, then self-awareness is probably a great place to start. Let self-awareness open you up to new opportunities for your life.
Growing and getting connected
Everyday I aim to grow and get more connected.
Self-awareness helped me to move on from my past. I use it to examine the patterns in my life and find new ways of being. It’s not complete by any means.
Life is about learning and being the best you can be (well that’s my opinion). I’m still learning, always learning how to be more true to who I am. Everyday is about connecting with my higher self or you may say intuition.
Connecting to my intuition means I’m living my life from my heart. I often break into song singing, “All You Need is Love” by the Beatles. I have chosen to walk the past less travelled because I have walked many other paths and they didn’t offer joy and happiness.
My journey of self-awareness has been enlightening.
The more I come from my heart, the more true I am to myself and the less influence my ego has on my life (that animal instinct that thinks it rules me!).